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The rest I didn’t know I needed!!!

by Neo Nare | Jun 23, 2026 | Sopha Newsletter | 0 comments

Greetings beloved

It’s been a minute since I have been here in your inbox and some of you have since signed up to the newsletter to download the mothering as medicine ebook and never heard from me ever since.
I wish I could say I am sorry for being AOWL, but the truth is, needed to be away from creation because I had reached a point of compassion fatigue which slipped through while I wasn’t paying attention.
one thing about me is that I am a ‘show upper’ e.i, when I decide that I am doing something, I really go all out and leave little to no stones unturned.

Before I got to know about inner work, I was busy with my PhD studies which I later decided to drop out as I later discovered that it did not align with the journey I was choosing to embark on as a soul.

you can only imagine the amount of articles I was reading more so because it was just after few months of graduating my second masters degree.
I got introduced to the concept of inner work through network marketing and the first ‘non scientific’ book I read was a book called rich dad poor dad by Robert Kiyosaki.

Little did I know that this was a beginning of a full 8 years journey of constant creation without stopping.
I founded my coaching business called the school of Primal Healing Arts (SOPHA) which you can check out https://sopha.co.za/, created and published a podcast called the GenieCoach podcast which you can also check out on Podbean, Spotify and Apple Podcasts. I created 2 online courses, hosted picnics for both kids and adults alike and became a mother for the second time while building all these and changing jobs and locations frequently.
in 2022 I took what seemed like an early retirement but later found it to be a 3 years sabbatical and if that was not a loud enough voice from the universe that I am tired, I don’t know what should be.
apart from the tangible creations, I was also doing inner work, attending workshops and seminars, read so many self help books and joining courses including money courses and just how to be a woman. Yep!! I had to learn that too and hired few coaches as well.

at the core of all this, shadow work was my focus. And the thing about shadow work is, if you truly commit yourself to it, it will throw everything at you, the good, the bad and the sublime.

Fast forward 2024, it was year of the dragon and as a show upper I took the opportunity of the fire element to help me transmute a lot of the things that did not serve me. This was followed by 2025, the 9th year, which is year of the snake where it was all about shedding the itsy bitsy that the fire element did not shed, maybe because they were a big part of my identity and stories and I wasn’t ready to shed.

Towards the end of 2025, even my go to and trusted nervous system regulator aka weekly massages where not helping in rejuvenating me. And as i checked in I heard a voice inside said, ‘I am tired, please remember that Rest is also productive.’ I remembered that throughout the 8 years of constant creation, my best successes came when I slowed down. And as such I made a radical decision to not plan any picnic for 2026. Because I was anxious of having no income stream, I bargain with my enterprenuer archetype to at least host 2 women’s retreat and online courses.

and this was the beginning of my recovery. It was scary, and I had the guilt of ‘leaving my people hanging’ but at the core of it, I knew that I am only as good to those people when I am well rested and regulated/grounded.

so half of 2026 has been dedicated to me giving back to myself, resting and nourishing myself. Asking for support where I need it and just going within. I don’t work on thiursdays at my work that I am professionally hired, and as a result Thursdays have become my self care day and on some days I go on a solo date? Other days I just stay in bed and watch series or read a book and yes, at times I am just not in the mood even to color so I snuggle with my daughter Lego whom I am homeschooling.

so why did I see it necessary to write a whole thesis explaining my disappearance?

well maybe I am feeling guilty, because I am still recovering people pleaser 🫣🤣🤣.
But I felt that as much as I hate being ghosted, I also don’t like doing it to others either and maybe this newsletter is my way to free both of us.

I am not here to promise consistent newsletters, nope 🙂‍↔️, I don’t feel like I am ready to commit to a schedule of newsletters. But what I am here to say is, I am feeling slightly rejuvenated and feel like I can give a bit of myself to you as the loyal reader and I am here to say that I am back and I might not be consistent but I will be keeping in touch with you through the newsletters and I want it to be divinely aligned and guided.

those who have read the ebook, I would love to hear what you received from it. Even if you didn’t get a chance to open it since you have downloaded it, a simple Hi always goes a long way to know that I am not alone.

until the next newsletter.